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What do you like to learn about?

Inquisitives

Questions for skipping small talk. Start anywhere; go as deep as the other person lets you.

How to play

  1. Whoever draws the card answers first, then asks it back.
  2. Swipe sideways for another card at this level; swipe up to go deeper.
  3. Go as deep as the other person lets you, and no deeper.

Level 1

  1. What do you like to learn about?

  2. What's the last thing you got weirdly good at?

  3. Where do you go when you need to think?

  4. What did you want to be when you were ten?

  5. What's a small thing that reliably makes your day better?

  6. What are you a snob about?

  7. Who taught you something you still use?

  8. What do people get wrong about the place you grew up?

  9. What's the best meal you've had this year, and who was there?

  10. What are you reading, watching or listening to that you'd actually recommend?

  11. What's the last photo you took on your phone, and why did you take it?

  12. What do you do on a day with nothing in it?

  13. What's the last thing you got genuinely obsessed with?

  14. What advice do people give that you think is actually bad?

  15. What do you spend money on that other people think is wasteful?

  16. What's a job you've had that changed how you treat strangers?

  17. What did you think adults knew that it turns out nobody knows?

  18. What's a phase you went through that you're glad ended?

  19. What have you owned far longer than you expected?

  20. When did a stranger last make you laugh?

  21. Which household chore do you oddly enjoy?

  22. What tiny luxury feels worth every penny?

  23. What piece of old technology do you miss despite it being worse?

  24. What did your first bad boss teach you?

  25. Who changed your taste in music?

  26. Which possession have you kept far longer than it deserved?

  27. What smell instantly takes you back to being a kid?

  28. What irrational fear did you have as a kid?

  29. What job would you be terrible at but love doing?

  30. What is your most boring memory that you can't forget?

Level 2

  1. What did you believe for a long time that turned out to be wrong?

  2. What's an opinion you hold that most of your friends don't?

  3. When did you last change your mind about something that mattered?

  4. What did your parents get right?

  5. What's a compliment you got that you still think about?

  6. What's the most useful thing anyone has ever told you?

  7. What do you do that you suspect is unusual?

  8. What have you quit, and were you right to?

  9. What kind of person do you find hard to be around?

  10. What's a rule you live by that you've never said out loud?

  11. Which stranger has stuck in your head?

  12. What kind of tired are you these days?

  13. When did you realize an adult had no idea what they were doing?

  14. What do you miss about a time you would never go back to?

  15. Who knows a version of you that no longer exists?

  16. Which smell takes you straight back somewhere?

  17. Where would you go back to, knowing it won't be the same?

  18. What do you do that you'd be embarrassed to have filmed?

  19. Who were you at sixteen?

  20. What's the best argument you've ever lost?

  21. Which of your habits came straight from someone else?

  22. What's the last thing that made you angry on someone else's behalf?

  23. What's a compliment you can't take seriously when you hear it?

  24. What decision are you still defending years later?

  25. Where in your life are you playing it too safe?

  26. What do you think I'd be shocked to learn about you?

  27. What's the nicest compliment you've received from someone who barely knew you?

  28. What part of your life would be hardest to explain to your younger self?

  29. Who would you most hate to disappoint?

  30. What about getting older are you least prepared for?

Level 3

  1. What are you working on in yourself right now?

  2. What do you envy in other people?

  3. What have you been avoiding?

  4. When did you last cry, and what was it actually about?

  5. What's a fear you have that sounds silly when you say it?

  6. What do you wish you'd said to someone?

  7. Which part of your life would you not want your younger self to see?

  8. What do you need more of that you have trouble asking for?

  9. What would you do differently if nobody would judge you for it?

  10. What have you forgiven someone for that you're not sure you should have?

  11. What are you currently pretending not to know?

  12. Where did you grow up, and what did it teach you about money?

  13. Who have you quietly grown apart from without ever saying so?

  14. What are you pretending to be fine about?

  15. What do you do when you're hurt that you're not proud of?

  16. What would have to change for you to feel like you'd done enough?

  17. What would you want to be doing on your last ordinary day?

  18. Has anyone ever loved you more than you loved them?

  19. Who did you stop speaking to, and do you regret it?

  20. When did you first understand that your parents were afraid of something?

  21. When you imagine being old, who's sitting next to you?

  22. When did you betray your own principles to keep the peace?

  23. Which relationship brings out a version of you that you dislike?

  24. When did you realise someone couldn't give you what you needed?

  25. What have you forgiven without ever getting an apology?

  26. When did you stop believing an adult would come and fix things?

  27. What do you blame your parents for that they will never know?

  28. What were you wrong about the first time you met someone here?

  29. What argument do you keep having with the same person?

  30. What did your family teach you about money that you're still undoing?

Level 4

  1. Is there a belief that's useful to hold and false?

  2. What do you think happens when we die, and does it change how you live?

  3. What would you want people to say about you when you're not in the room?

  4. What's the thing you've never told anyone, or the closest thing to it you can say?

  5. What do you think I've got wrong about you so far?

  6. What do you hope is true?

  7. If you had one phone call left, who would you call, and what would you say?

  8. What's the loneliest you've ever been?

  9. If you knew you had five years left, what would you stop doing tomorrow?

  10. What do you think you're for?

  11. What did you give up on that you've never told anyone about?

  12. When were you last genuinely ashamed of how you behaved?

  13. Have you ever felt relief when you were supposed to feel sad?

  14. What do you need from me that you've never asked for?

  15. What would have to happen for you to feel your life was wasted?

  16. Who would be hardest to lose, and does that person know?

  17. What have you wanted to ask me but decided against?

  18. What question are you hoping I never ask you?

  19. Who did you fail when they needed you?

  20. Have you ever wanted to disappear completely?

  21. What makes you crueler than you want to be?

  22. When has desire made you unrecognizable to yourself?

  23. What do you think I secretly judge you for?

  24. How long do you think we will know each other?

  25. Who have you failed, and do they know it?

  26. Is there someone you still love who doesn't know?

  27. What death changed you most?

  28. What's the worst thing you've done to someone who trusted you?

  29. What have you never forgiven yourself for?

  30. When have you felt closest to me?